When I first saw this video, I immediately thought of the relationship Gabe and Bryan have with each other. Bryan is a wonderful big brother who lets Gabe hang around and climb on him and ask a bazillion questions. Most days I think Gabe's favorite person is his big brother. All last summer Gabe would come running yelling with glee when Bryan got home from work. He was even more excited than he is when Mom or Dad come home. A relationship that I can guarantee would not have developed if the kids were in school all day simply because the two of them would never have had enough time together to truly get to know each other.
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truly think it has more to do with family dynamics rather than how the kids are schooled. I have two kids that truly can't figure out how to get along but have friends with large families, send their kids to school, and their kids are best friends. be careful to not get sucked into the "only homeschooling is best and homeschooled kids are perfect" mentality. I'm sure that's probably not what you meant though.
I also think my two have just such *major* personality differences that I can only pray and have hope that they don't ruin their relationship before they're adults and end up as pathetically, perpetually bickering,Ike my mom and her sisters. Schooling has nothing to do with some relationships (although my oldest and her youngest sister are just like these two kids portrayed in the clip)
In the case of Bryan and Gabe, I believe because of the huge age difference that if the boys were traditionally schooled, their current relationship never would have had a chance to develop. Bryan would have been out of the house for pretty much Gabe's entire life between school, sports, and scouts. Then Gabe would be sucked into preschool and in general the entire family would be a ton busier. In general, I believe it is much, much harder for families with widely spaced children to form such close relationships with the kids who are farther apart if they are traditionally schooled and apart from each other for most of their days. So the closeness between widely spaced siblings is truly the only thing I was pointing out there. We have plenty of bickering in our house and I see plenty of families who's children seem to treat each other like crap so I know schooling is no guarantee of a good relationship.
I understand. :D My friend just had her fifth baby four months ago and there is a 15 year age span between her oldest and youngest and they share a relationship like what you've described between Bryan and Gabe. Her kids go to school. Public at that. They're good kids. But I see a lot of this so while I *totally* get what you're saying, I honestly believe it'll rest primarily on the dynamics of the family. Families are truly blessed regardless of how they school their kids and still end up with kids that have relationships like this. It is harder for the family that sends their kids to school, but that's going to be dependent on how parents handle their family life and dynamics.
It's SO special watching it, huh? I *love* it! My second is GREAT with the boys, it's like I gave birth and now she wants to take over. But the oldest is GREAT with her youngest sister (it's like she likes the babies from a distance but loves the toddler/preschoolers). Seeing the preferences of ages is hilarious.
You've got great kids though... you make many families envious of how well your kids interact. You are an amazing mom! :) :)
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